There are specific terms, phrases and information that need to be on various documents in an international adoption dossier. There’s this paper from that doctor and this letter from that employer. Each person is given the sample of what is needed for the dossier to be accepted by the adoption officials in the other country. But people decide to edit those forms and take things away or add things that don’t matter. Why can’t people JUST do what needs to be done to help us complete our adoption? Why does every piece of paper need to be a fight? I get SO tired of having to deal with everyone else’s issues about this. Why do people who say they want to help make things so difficult?
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I know what you mean. My sister-in-law adopted a little girl from Korea, and the entire process was so stressful to her. It took her almost a year to get everything figured out and in order. Just keep the faith that you will have a beautiful child of your own. At the end it will all be worth it! Good luck!
Support in words is cheap, people just say it easily. Please be patient, it will be worthed at the end. Keep your faith. Wish you good luck and hope I can congratulate you when you get your child…. soon.
That’s a good question on the efficiency of adoption. However, many adoption agencies are very protective and love to do all these sorts of background checks etc, so that the kid will not end up abused. The funny thing is, most adopted kids are treated much better than biologically related ones. The only problems that usually arise is the adopted kid’s tendency to find the real parents and to place blame on the parents based on not even being the real (or biological) parents.
Because you are dealing with either non-profit agencies or government agencies, which means you are dealing with bureaucrats. They know you want to adopt and they know you will be back. They don’t get bonus for shuffling paper fast and make things easy for you. That’s why.